Whatever Happened to Loyalty?

Commitment has been heavy on my mind as of late. Not just because I just celebrated my 9th wedding anniversary, but because of our society. The lack of commitment is truly remarkable. There seems to be an implied opt-out clause in every facet of life. Not happy with your spouse? Break up. Sick of your job? Quit. Friend or family made you mad? Cut them out. Simple as that.

It appears that many lack a quality called loyalty. Oxford defines loyalty as ‘a strong feeling of support or allegiance.’ While many today might not be prone to loyalty, others have it in spades. I’m proud to say that I fall firmly in the latter category. Fiercely loyal is my only setting. Jesus, my family & friends, the United States of America, the New York Yankees, Chick-fil-A. From life altering to minute, if I love it, it inherently has my allegiance.

I believe the reason loyalty is so rare today is because people will inevitably let you down. People are going to fail. Humanity is fallible by nature. It’s a fact of life. But this is where grace should come in. We should allow room for error simply because of humanity, but we don’t. We live in the age of ‘cancel culture.’ We might think it only applies to the media and corporations but it doesn’t. The cancel mentality has seeped its way into every facet of our lives. Many operate under the mindset, ‘you rub me the wrong way, and you’re dead to me.’ No mediation, no grace to be found. It’s a sad state of affairs.

What if Jesus didn’t extend grace? What if, when He walked the earth, He saw all of our shortcomings and decided we weren’t worth dying for? What about every time we’ve messed up since we got saved? What if He turned His back on us? Friend, we are alive today only because of the never ending grace of God. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast.” He knew us intimately and still chose to die so that we might have the opportunity for eternal life. But He doesn’t only give us one shot. He is the God of a million second chances. He is loyal to us! There are so many examples of His faithfulness but one of my favorites is in Matthew 18:12-14. “What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off. In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish.” Amazing love in action.

If you are struggling with your attitude toward others, I urge you to pray about it. Believe me, it’s hard when someone does you wrong. Especially when you feel loyal to them and you find they don’t share the same loyalty. Thankfully, Ephesians 4:29-32 provides excellent instruction on how we should behave towards one another. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Friends, allow God to do a work in your heart. Let us show others Jesus by being a loving and forgiving people. Not being pushovers but living our lives in His love and taking a prayerful, Godly approach instead of the hasty, cutthroat way of the world. Let us be loyal to God, our country, and our fellow man.

Until next time,

Erica Lee

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